Wednesday, October 25, 2023

Times change...

 October 25, 2023


The story of this family and the town that we have claimed as our own, this town we moved to in 1989, is to a large extent the story of my beloved’s relationship with its eateries.

Or more specifically, those places in town that serve breakfast—or the anytime snack of French fries with gravy. My husband has become quite fond of going out for breakfast, or for fries and gravy. It really is one of his favorite things to do now that he’s retired.

When we first arrived here after living all but our first year of marriage out in rural environs, we thought that our lifestyle was about to change. We envisioned weekly trips down to the bakery, weekend strolls along the “main drag” – in those days this town’s down-town business district was relegated for the most part to a section of the main street that was equivalent of two blocks long. We also had a “plaza’ at the north end of town that featured a restaurant, the name of which I forget, and a second grocery store, in addition to the IGA that was located smack in the middle of downtown.

That change in our lifestyle never truly materialized, though. It turned out that propinquity had not been the missing ingredient to our previous lives lived in near isolation. It took us a couple of years more to decide that we were, at the heart of it all, natural hermits. We’d drive to work and back each day—a round trip of some distance—and then once home, we wanted to remain so until it was time to head to work again.

Where we had first settled in this town was in a older neighborhood just to the north of our downtown core. Then we had a house fire and ended up renting a house on the south side of the town, a block from the Catholic church.  We later bought that house and it’s where we have lived ever since.

From here, if one drives north about a half a mile, the road will curve on a downward slope for a total of about a thirty-to-forty-foot drop in elevation, and then curves to the right. And as you make that curve, bam, the entire business section of downtown is laid out in front of you on both sides of the main street. Yes, the business district is in the valley, the lowest part of town. Diagonal parking is allowed so one can pick a spot close to one’s destination, although there is also a parking lot located behind the businesses on the west side of the street.

Today our little town is not so little anymore and quite a bit different from our early days here.

The town has expanded to the north, beyond that plaza that now holds a couple of take-out restaurants, an Ontario government public office, and a hardware/tire store. The new grocery that had been built in that new plaza has since been relocated across the street in a new, new specially constructed site and is about twice the size it used to be. And beyond those businesses, new housing has been constructed, as well as a couple of small sized “strip malls” each containing fast food restaurants.

To the south west, there has been new home construction as well, along with four—count ‘em, four—new roundabouts and a very large commercial area featuring take out restaurants, eat in restaurants, the previously located in downtown but now new and improved and bigger hardware store—and a store that sells cannabis products.

Change appears to be a constant now here in our not-so-small town. If we only stay home and only sit out on our front porch, we can convince ourselves that this is still our same small town. Well, except for the fact that where the Catholic school used to be in the next block from our house is now a residence for sensory-deprived folk.

But we don’t stay home. David will often head off on his scooter. He may go to the newest grocery store in town, located about a half mile to the east. In that general area, too, is the new “Health Hub”, a wonderful new building that houses our doctor’s office, as well as the community lab and all sorts of different medical-related offices.

That was a good change, meaning our doctor’s office was now closer. But some change is hard to take.

A few weeks ago, my beloved made his way to the one take-out place in the middle of our downtown for his regular infusion of fries and gravy, only to learn that was the last week the business was going to be in operation.

And then the worst happened, something was only noticed yesterday, and friends, it was a hard one for him.

He had a medical appointment with a doctor who is not in the new health hub but is located in an older building situated in the valley which holds our business section. It was Tuesday, and his appointment was at 10:00am. He planned to head for breakfast right afterwards.

I was in the living room when he returned. I heard him making noise in the kitchen, so I went out to see how his appointment had gone.  He was reaching into the cupboard and brought out a small frying pan, which he set on the stove. I asked him what he was doing, and he informed me, with visible sadness, that he was going to fry himself some eggs because, apparently, there was nowhere anymore to buy breakfast at 11 a.m. on a Tuesday.

I asked him why he thought that was? It seemed unfathomable to me. And my husband said something that was so profound, it reminded me that he really did know how to think and think well.

He said, and I quote, “because this is a yuppy town, now. It’s not a farm town anymore.”

That truly does feel like the definitive statement on the differences between our town, then and now. His statement says so much more than just the lack of an early week breakfast place.

I really couldn’t have said it better myself.

 

Love,

Morgan

http://www.morganashbury.com

https://www.bookstrand.com/morgan-ashbury


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