Wednesday, May 29, 2024

Porches and gratitude....

 May 29, 2024


Today represents a notable day in my family history, as it’s a double wedding anniversary: The eighty-first for my parents who were married May 29, 1943, and the fifty-ninth for my brother and his wife who were married on May 29, 1965.

This past weekend, despite the intermittent rain, I spent some time sitting on my front porch. That’s only notable because it’s not something I do on a regular basis anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I truly enjoy being outside and just taking in the fresh air and, because our porch is a covered one, indirect sunlight. In times past I would spend an enormous amount of time out there—reading, usually, and talking to our walnut tree.

From the time we moved into this house, and beginning mid-spring, on days when I didn’t have to work, the first cup of coffee of the day was enjoyed slowly, reverently, while surrounded by empty streets, fresh air, and birdsong on that porch. When that tradition began it was my much cherished “me” time, time to get my thoughts organized and to simply be until it was time to do.

Times have changed, and so did I. The times spent on the porch are rarer, which makes them even more special to me. Now, of course, I need to bring my lap blanket, and pay attention to the amount of breeze. But my porch remains a special, and especially comfortable place to be.

I spent some time over this past weekend thinking about my parents and my brother. That’s in my nature. My thoughts were more fond than they were sad. One never truly gets over the loss of loved ones. There may still be a teary moment here and there. But one can learn to be at peace with the loss and to prize the memories.

The weekend certainly had more than its share of rain. But rainy days can be conducive to thought. I found it incredibly poignant and comforting that while I was just sitting quietly this past Friday and Saturday, I was treated to the mingled scent of lilacs and lily-of-the-valley. For two days in a row, that much-loved olfactory memory transported me, taking me back to a time of peace and joy, to a time past. To a time when adulting wasn’t yet a part of my vocabulary.

I was, however, a little miffed at the timing of the rain. You see, just the day before, our walnut tree went into full leaf, dropping its debris all over the sidewalk, the walkway, the vehicles…in short, everywhere. I did ask David to take a minute and blow off the affected areas. He countered that he thought he’d get our little worker bees in it on Tuesday. He told me he wanted to teach them both how to use the leaf-blower.

Of course, it was also raining yesterday (Tuesday) which means that the great-grandchildren did not do yard work, and that detritus is still over the sidewalk and the walkway, but now is a truly soggy and surely rotting mess instead of just a fluffy, dusty one.

Monday was so wet and chilly that I made some potato and leek soup. Since the suggestion that I could do that was so well received, it didn’t surprise me that the ravening mouths slurped away in a very avid fashion. I also saw to it that our second daughter was given a good portion.

All of my work on my latest novel has now been completed. Love Under Two Dreamers, which will be my 70th title for Siren-Bookstrand, is set for release on June 5. It’s time for me to knuckle down and try to figure out what comes next. I generally plan 3 or 4 books ahead. This used to be something I did in January, each year. Now, my planning sessions still produce a few titles, but the sessions themselves no longer happen annually, or even in January.

I’ve decided to be kinder to myself, and not angst over the fact that my pace of writing has slowed post-pandemic. Instead, I am focusing on being grateful that I am still writing, period.

I’ve decided that gratitude is the answer to ever question, and every quandary. And the more of it I have, the richer my life becomes.

 

Love,

Morgan

http://www.morganashbury.com

http://www.bookstrand.com/morgan-ashbury

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