Beware...

 March 18, 2026

I do wish Mother Nature would make up her mind. Now, there is a part of me that absolutely identifies with her behavior. The way she teased us all just a few short days ago, giving us that taste of pleasantly warm temperatures and intoxicatingly fresh air? Seducing us to step out onto the porch without a jacket, to remember how sweet this new season can be? Genius. Simply genius.

Our human hearts went pitter pat as we felt our “hooray, it’s springtime” vibes begin to quiver awake. And yes, our little minds, tired of dealing with real life in the big city and this wretched cold winter began to go off in every possible direction, coming up with all the spring-like activities we could indulge in now that it was Spring!

I can’t claim I actually heard MN cackle with glee when, the very next day, our temperatures plunged. But I could imagine it. I also imagined seeing her rub her gnarled old hands together as snow began to fall—just a little at first, so that me, the poor human being snowed upon made the quavering assertion that it surely would all go away any minute now…

Instead, we awoke the day after that to a snowfall that, while not the deepest of the year was certainly the deepest in weeks. A snowfall compounded by a bit of rain, a bit of drizzle, more snow, then rain again so that the outside looked like a damned skating rink.

Personally, I don’t think MN is deliberately taunting us. No, I’m beginning to suspect the old girl is completely demented.

A few years back I purchased, one for my husband and one for myself, a pair of those “wearable blankets” that were quite popular at the time. They are soft, somewhat heavy, and can be worn—though if you are wearing it, you’re not walking around doing anything. The style that I got for us opened at the back, with Velcro at the neck to secure it closed, after a fashion. The sleeves are generous, there is a front pocket similar to a hoodie, and on the inside at the bottom is a cozy extra, a “pocket” to slip your feet into.

We wore them often that first year, because it was the weather being extra chilly that prompted the purchase. Come the spring, we set them away. This garment truly is the size of a blanket, and where to store them became a subject of some thought. David put his on top of his dresser. I put mine—after rolling it and then tying it up—atop the tall, large six-shelved cabinet taking up space in my office.

The thing came down at the beginning of the next winter but then sat there through a couple more, simply because it never got quite cold enough to wear it.

But the winter of 2025-2026 has been different. I shamelessly took advantage of my grandson, one day back in November, and had him retrieve it for me. He’s a long drink of water, that one, and didn’t even need a ladder to reach it.

I’ve worn my blanket-thingy a fair bit this winter, and had been considering stowing it away again, until this latest cold snap arrived. I may or may not wear it later today. Yesterday, the outside temperature didn’t rise above 16 degrees Fahrenheit, with a “feels like” of minus 6. It’s less cold (NOT warmer) today at 28 with a feel like of “16”. That, friends, is pretty darn cold!

So, I won’t stow the thing quite yet. MN is demented, remember, and I don’t want to encourage another sub-zero temperature dip. Because I have been paying attention for the last ten-plus years and what I know is this:

That recent little display from MN was just another reminder that when it comes to dealing with the elderly in this lifetime, it’s best to never drop your guard. You might think you understand all the nuances and all the subtleties connected to their words and their actions but trust me.

When it comes to those of us who used above a certain number of birthday candles on our last cake, we can be slyer—and crazier—than you could ever even imagine.

Ignore that truth at your own peril.

 

Love,
Morgan
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The peace is within us...

 March 11, 2026

Rare are the moments of absolute silence. For those whose lives are busy, who are living days of constant balancing, trying to keep so many balls in the air at the same time, moments of pure silence can become their Holy Grail. Second best, if absolute silence is impossible, is a room wherein the only sound is a clock on the wall, ticking. Ah, yes.

I used to be that person. With three children under ten, with having animals about, always, and with trying to work at a day job and manage a home in the evening with equal efficiency, I can tell you there were times. Times when I would feel as if the next totally natural thing for me to do would be to pull out my hair, fists-full at a time.

Times when I would instead choose to slip out of the house, under the radar. I’d grab a coffee at the take-out window and then drive to some secluded spot—both within minutes of my house. There, I’d turn off my car, open the windows, and wait. It took a few moments for the engine of my car to stop its little ritual of ping-ping-pinging as it finished shutting down.

Head back, eyes closed, I’d take the time—never more than a few minutes were needed—to soak in the blessed silence, to find my center again. To breathe deeply and just be.

When those moments would come, those little times of escape, when I finally reached that point? Well, the irony was not lost on me, and I thought about that irony every single time.

Because way back in the beginning, when my first born was my only and we were newly returned to rural living, my escape came not through silence, but through music. Magnificent pieces of music which were never the same, as my heart and my soul have always had a lot of room for songs that touched me.

When we moved into my mother’s house, after her death, we had a lot of room. Bedrooms were upstairs but downstairs, in what would later, and after the next two children become our bedroom, was the den. The den contained a couple of comfy chairs to sit in, shelves of books to read, and our stereo system with a mountain of LPs.

A system that late at night would play Streisand or The Supremes or Neil Diamond or even a movie soundtrack—whichever flavor I craved in the moment, and always at glorious full blast.

Both husband and son back then slept like babes and never awakened—a reality I considered a gift from God. The blast of music took a bit longer to do its work than the later pounds of silence, but the music was it for the younger me. A half hour, minimum, and all would be well again.

So I have used both all-consuming music and total silence as healing balms during the course of my lifetime. Two extremes, bound together only by the use to which I put them.

Being more mature now, I no loner need the extremes. More and more I find that balance I need within myself. Moments of mindfulness, and moments of prayer have become the salve and the elixir when one is needed. And I’m pleased they’re needed less often than ever they were.

For me, absolute silence is no longer achievable. Actions always have consequences, you see, and music played at full blast has resulted in tinnitus being one of mine. But even that’s less than once it was, and I find it much easier these days, even with that constant buzz, to find contentment.

I’ve discovered, as I am sure most everyone does eventually, that contentment and peace are not commodities. They are states of being. They are not found in the world, they can never be found in the world, because that is not where they exist.

They live within us. They always have and forever will. And like just about every truly good thing in this life, having them are the result of a decision.

The world outside my office window reveals the change of seasons and thus the passage of time. But here, within my heart and within my soul, time slips away from the spotlight, and peace flourishes.

 

Love,
Morgan

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Hang onto your sanity...

 March 4, 2026

I can finally report that most of the snow, and more importantly the ice that has been strewn about our yard is gone. Of course, we have a few of those usual places where shadows rule for most of the day. There small mounds remain, and if one didn’t see them in the corner, hovering, one would surely feel the cold they release into their immediate environs as one walks past them.

The forecast for the next week or so is promising spring-like temperatures. We will pick a time and put the cat into the basement (one of his favorite haunts) and close the door to keep him safely there for a little while. Once that has been accomplished, I plan to have both front and back door, as well as a few windows, open to the allure of what I hope will be sweet, fresh, spring air.

Our actual spring cleaning will have to wait another week, because daughter is working this weekend and trust me when I say that the kind of cleaning we need doesn’t happen without her.

I’m not completely useless when it comes to household chores, but it’s getting close. Last year I had a left arm strain that took a while to heal. Apparently, my right arm was jealous as I have been dealing with its version of the same injury for the last two and a half months. It’s getting better but still impedes the implementation of my activities list.

I’ve never been a person content to sit day after day and do nothing. I’ve had a few of those, however, during this latest little blip. I really don’t like it all that much. When it comes to the adjustments that one is forced to make as one ages, this has been the most difficult for me—and the most humbling.

 Fresh in my memory are the days when I would tackle my house like a zealot, cleaning, scouring, rearranging….well, you get the picture. I found great satisfaction in the doing, and the results. Even if in those days it was a numbers game with the odds stacked against me. The numbers? One human pro clean and tidy(me) vs. four others on the con side of the equation.

I used to joke that I could work like the dickens both Saturday and Sunday, then get up Monday and not be able to discern the hard work I’d done.

That’s not the case any longer of course. But now it takes me the lion’s share of the day to complete what I used to do in a few short hours.

Ah well, I can still cook, producing good meals and the inmates who live here with me make happy tummy sounds as they eat, so there’s that.

Here we are again, my friends, back to those words found in the book of Matthew about wars and rumors of wars. Over the course of the last two days, I have heard three separate explanations for actions taken in the middle east by three separate members of the same political administration. One claims it’s an offensive war that will only take a few weeks; one claims it’s a defensive war that may stretch a bit longer; and one says there is no war at all.

That’s a rather odd and disconcerting example of the saying, “something for everyone”.

In my corner of the world, I prefer to hold on to my sanity and my peace of mind with both hands. The Olympics are over, but certain other television shows are back, so there are diversions to be had. And since a couple of them involve music, well, that’s where I’ve chosen to place my focus.  I’m not ignoring reality. Trust me, I see what’s going on. I have just chosen to face this situation the same way as I’m facing my declining housekeeping abilities.

All I can do is all I can do and that just has to be enough. Anything else surely is the definition of madness, and I prefer to remain sane, thank you very much.

Because really, there are so damn few of us left around here anymore.

 

Love,

Morgan

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