Ruminations....

 October 9, 2024

Similar to 2024’s tomato crop, this year the walnut tree that rules over the north-east corner of our small domain had little to no production of walnuts. The entire purpose of the walnut crop, in my opinion, is to feed the local rodents. They aren’t the sort of walnuts that one can do anything else with, either. As to the lack of production I’m hearing that this year was just not as great for growing things in this area as was last year.

Those who live more in tune with the land will tell you that’s simply nature’s way.

Our walnut tree is the last to get its leaves in the spring and the first to lose them—usually that begins in early August. Typically, when the first walnut hits the ground, so do the first leaves. Last year, we had a couple of near misses, navigating our way from house to car, never knowing if a walnut was headed to our, well, heads. The bombardment, some days, got to the point that I very nearly dug out an umbrella, thinking to at least slow the velocity of any missile that dropped from tree, on its way earthward to me.

Like a lot of things in recent days, I didn’t quite get around to digging out that umbrella.

Last year’s was a hell of a good crop of walnuts, and when we were outside, we always did our best to pick them up off the road and toss them onto the grass, and sometimes into the garden that borders the house in front. Otherwise, cars would inevitably roll over them. Have you ever heard a walnut being flattened, suddenly, under the press of automobile tires? It sounds like a firework—or a gun shot. The squirrels and chipmunks seemed to appreciate our efforts, too, because they did a good job of taking those yummy (to them) walnuts away.

During this time of year, when there is a danger of incoming walnut bombs, our daughter does park her car out of reach of any possible barrage—when she thinks of it. Or perhaps more accurately, after weighing protecting the car from possible dents versus that extra block’s walk from and to the car. Her work is quite taxing, and her days are often long.

As I’ve sometimes put it, it’s not so much that we’re lazy here as that we give priority where it is most beneficial. That’s our story, and folks, we’re sticking to it.

October, in the Ashbury household, is the first month of winter. Here, in this family, we acknowledge the reality of things. Winter runs from October 1 to March 31, inclusive. Spring, summer and autumn can just fight over the other 6 months.

Spring has always been my favorite season. The time of freshness, of renewal, the optimism that everything can be new again after winter’s cruel grip upon us is broken. Of course, the last couple of winters haven’t been all that cruel. But that doesn’t mean it won’t be this time around.

When one has lived through times that have been a real struggle, it’s difficult to put those memories away, completely. The “old wives” have all sorts of maxims that demonstrate that principle. Once burned, twice shy is the one that comes to mind in this moment.

It can be challenging these days, especially if one is determined to try and figure out what is going to happen next. Logic no longer seems to be in vogue, and folks, I regret to inform you that common sense is not only no longer common, I fear that it is dead and buried.

After much thinking I’ve come to a conclusion that will surprise no one who has read these essays. The best way, the only way, to face whatever comes next is with an attitude of gratitude.

A healthy, strong sense of gratitude for everything is the best shield I have found to dispense with life’s slings and arrows. Gratitude is one of my most cherished possessions and my everlasting prayer is that it always will be so.

 

Love,

Morgan

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Life is like a .... mattress in a box?

 October 2, 2024

Welcome to October!

It feels as if time has been passing a lot faster in these last couple of years than in every year before. Of course, I know that’s just my own perception. And it puzzles me. There isn’t nearly as much variety in my days as there was, say, even five years ago. I certainly can’t get as much done in my mornings as I once did. In other words, I’m nowhere near as busy as I used to be. With that being the case, one would think that time would seem to crawl, rather than speed up.

I have to wonder, should I rethink this entire perception of mine? Maybe instead of the years beginning to drag in a slow, tedious march, life is more like….  a mattress in a box.

Have you ever purchased one of those? Have you ever been present when that mattress is taken out of the box? It certainly is something to witness and I promise you, it will leave an indelible impression.

One has to tug and pull and swear a little just to get the mass of content out of the cardboard, first. Then one needs to find the space to begin to unwrap it. Yes, it’s wrapped, and well, too—in shrink wrap.

Once you have it unboxed, you lay it out—and because this is your first time, maybe you place it on the center of the naked bedframe. And then you check the orientation, and line it up so it is in the middle. And then you begin to peel away the plastic. It’s very slow going, and there sure is a lot of shrink wrap on this thing. Miles of it. But you work on it. You tug. You pull. The cookie-dough-like object covered in shrink wrap begins to roll as you pull, and it seems to get a bit smaller. You bring it back to the starting position, and then you tug on the wrap some more.

It becomes difficult to work with all that shrink wrap no longer on the cookie-dough thing, so maybe you take scissors or a knife to the wrap that has been removed, so you can separate it from the mass and then kick it out of the way—or maybe set it in the next room.

You look at your fellow un-wrapper wondering if there really is a mattress in here, of if this is just a joke. And then, finally, several minutes after you’ve begun, you give it one more mighty tug—because you’re getting tired—and then say something to the effect of “oh, shit!”

And you get the hell out of the way, because this last little bit doesn’t need your help at all! You somehow finally reached that point of no return, and that baby is unwrapping itself—or rather, the mattress is throwing off its enforced configuration in its quest to be free!

At this point I want to pause and pose a question, something to think about. I know that there have been serious accidents involving workers and tires in garages, and some in factories. Has anyone ever been hurt by a layered foam mattress which is in the process of being wrapped but that doesn’t want to be squished into a roll? I imagine it’s a somewhat automated process, but I was just envisioning if there is,  perhaps, a special alarm that would sound in those factories when a mattress makes a break for it.

But I digress.

The analogy, and yes, it’s a lame one, is that maybe our lives are like those wrapped mattresses. One struggles for most of the time that it takes to unwrap them. To reveal their inner core. But perhaps there is a magic point that is reached and suddenly, that thing exerts its own natural force, and the wrap is literally thrown off.

It seemed at the time as if we were never going to get all that plastic off the new mattress, and then, suddenly, it was just thrown off. It was unwrapped and then we had to maneuver it into the right position—after pulling the now useless and discarded plastic out from beneath it.

So maybe time moves fast for us as we get older, because it’s hastening us to the point of…. well, you get my drift. A lame analogy, indeed.

I am not sure if it fits. I’m not even sure that it makes complete sense. But I do know one thing for certain and it’s something that I am grateful for.

I don’t have many moments of boredom as I settle into my golden years. I don’t get as much done, that’s true. But I sure as hell am very rarely at odds and ends.

No, I don’t get bored much at all.

 

Love,

Morgan

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